A few months ago, I wrote about Jason and I deciding to separate. It wasn’t an easy decision or one that was come to quickly. Much thought was put into it and much care was taken to do it the best way possible for both of us and especially for Henry. It has worked very nicely.
The boys took a vacation. Henry and I spent lots of time together. We all three did a few things together. Pretty sure we even laughed, cried, and got a little pissed off at some point.
But after a summer living apart, we’ve decided we like “us” this way. Apart. So apart we will stay.
(yes, you can read into that that we’re getting a divorce)
I can say with 100% certainty, being apart has brought us closer. Not closer as husband and wife, but closer as friends. And more importantly, closer as parents of Henry.
So here’s where we choose to go — our separate ways, which aren’t really separate at all. We will always be connected and always hold a certain love for one another.
There are things that no other person in this world could ever share with us that we have shared together. Only the two of us will ever be able to share the moment when we were told our Charlie would die. Only the two of us will ever be able to share Henry’s first cries and first broken arm and first days of school. Only the two of us will be able to share all our professional ups and downs of the last 17 years, our health ups and downs, and even our emotional ups and downs.
September 26 will be 17 years since we said “I do” on the St. Augustine lawn at The King and Prince in St. Simons. I’m not sure if we will still be married then or if it will all be final, but for the rest of my years, I’ll remember the feel of that grass under my feet as a 22-year-old Jana married the man she loved.
He will always be special. Always be part of me. Always be loved.
But now we both get to go and find our new happy, new life, and hopefully even new love.
Wish us all luck!
39 Comments
WildFlower
Good luck, my Lovely. I know your spirit will lead you down the paths of happiness!
WildFlower
Good luck, my Lovely. I know your spirit will lead you down the paths of happiness!
WildFlower
Good luck, my Lovely. I know your spirit will lead you down the paths of happiness!
Dresden
Wishing you ALL the luck. Xo
Dresden
Wishing you ALL the luck. Xo
Amanda
Wishing you so much luck and love, new and familiar.
Amanda
Wishing you so much luck and love, new and familiar.
molly
Beautiful, Jana. You are exceptional.
molly
Beautiful, Jana. You are exceptional.
Dana
Starting anew isn’t always the “OMG!!! MY LIFE IS OVER!!!” proposition that many would like to believe. It can be a very positive, powerful, affirming, life event. Just do you Jana!!
Dana
Starting anew isn’t always the “OMG!!! MY LIFE IS OVER!!!” proposition that many would like to believe. It can be a very positive, powerful, affirming, life event. Just do you Jana!!
Linda Sheridan
God bless and heal all of you ! Sending positive energy and love and light. I divorced after 17 years and I am blissfully happy and grateful. My second husband and I are a perfect pair. We have a beautiful son who is loved by our other beautiful kids and have grandchildren. 21 plus years later, I always regret hurting my people but my ex is a way better husband to his 2nd wife. They had no children together and have a travel laden carefree life.
Best of the best to you and yours.
Linda Sheridan
God bless and heal all of you ! Sending positive energy and love and light. I divorced after 17 years and I am blissfully happy and grateful. My second husband and I are a perfect pair. We have a beautiful son who is loved by our other beautiful kids and have grandchildren. 21 plus years later, I always regret hurting my people but my ex is a way better husband to his 2nd wife. They had no children together and have a travel laden carefree life.
Best of the best to you and yours.
Keely
Wishing you all the luck in the world- but it sounds like you don’t need it. 🙂 You seem to be doing all the right stuff for your family.
Keely
Wishing you all the luck in the world- but it sounds like you don’t need it. 🙂 You seem to be doing all the right stuff for your family.
Sean
Wishing you all the best on your new chapter. XO
Sean
Wishing you all the best on your new chapter. XO
Jessica Lasa
Good luck and thank you for sharing! This is very relevant for me today.
Jessica Lasa
Good luck and thank you for sharing! This is very relevant for me today.
meredith
<3
meredith
<3
Taya Dunn Johnson
Tons of luck, love and big hugs!
Taya Dunn Johnson
Tons of luck, love and big hugs!
Elisa Camahort Page
This was beautiful. Sad, but hopeful. Poignant. I’m sorry. And congratulations, I suppose.
Elisa Camahort Page
This was beautiful. Sad, but hopeful. Poignant. I’m sorry. And congratulations, I suppose.
Allie
I’m so sorry Jana, but am wishing you peace and happiness.
Allie
I’m so sorry Jana, but am wishing you peace and happiness.
Andrea
Well, luck and love sent your way. I’m sad for you, but happy, if that makes sense. Sad for separation and changes, because those can be tough, but happy for movement forward and changes, because those can be beautiful. Love you, my friend. Wishing your family strength as you journey to a new way of life together.
Andrea
Well, luck and love sent your way. I’m sad for you, but happy, if that makes sense. Sad for separation and changes, because those can be tough, but happy for movement forward and changes, because those can be beautiful. Love you, my friend. Wishing your family strength as you journey to a new way of life together.
Leigh Ann
So well put, from a place of confidence and sincerity. Wishing you love and peace!
Leigh Ann
So well put, from a place of confidence and sincerity. Wishing you love and peace!
Hands Free Mama
You are beautiful. You are strong. You are courageous. I will continue to watch in awe as you shine your light. Hard to believe it could get any brighter, but I think it already has. Love you dearly.
Hands Free Mama
You are beautiful. You are strong. You are courageous. I will continue to watch in awe as you shine your light. Hard to believe it could get any brighter, but I think it already has. Love you dearly.
Kir
I read this on vacation and told everyone it was sweat and not tears clouding my vision. You are smart, beautiful and you know your own heart. I know that things will be the way they should be because of that heart of yours.
Love you Jana.
Kir
I read this on vacation and told everyone it was sweat and not tears clouding my vision. You are smart, beautiful and you know your own heart. I know that things will be the way they should be because of that heart of yours.
Love you Jana.
Chibi Jeebs
Just caught up: I had a sneaking suspicion. Hoping this brings you everything you want and need. Sending all my love.
xoxo
Chibi Jeebs
Just caught up: I had a sneaking suspicion. Hoping this brings you everything you want and need. Sending all my love.
xoxo
Jamie@southmainmuse
Sorry I didn’t know this. Sorry I haven’t kept up with your blog since TeamRMHC. But I’ve been neglecting my own blog as well. Too much busyness which is a common malady these days. Sounds like you both have thought this through and tried life apart. Will be thinking and praying for you in these upcoming months. xo
Jamie@southmainmuse
Sorry I didn’t know this. Sorry I haven’t kept up with your blog since TeamRMHC. But I’ve been neglecting my own blog as well. Too much busyness which is a common malady these days. Sounds like you both have thought this through and tried life apart. Will be thinking and praying for you in these upcoming months. xo